Why should you remarry? Rather you should take sannyasa…
There is a certain kind of laddu which has such a taste, that anyone who has tasted it once, he laments, oh how I would like to taste again. And anyone who has never tasted, he also laments, oh I have never tasted.
So one who has tasted, and one who has not tasted, both are lamenting. Wife is like that.
Vrindaban 1 September, 1975
Tampa
My Dear Jayananda das:
Please accept my blessings. I am in due receipt of your letter dated August 11, 1975 and have noted the contents. What you have done is good. Why should you remarry? Rather you should take sannyasa. Now you are getting very good training. Why has Jayatirtha suggested you to remarry?
In Delhi there is a certain kind of laddu which has such a taste, that anyone who has tasted it once, he laments, oh how I would like to taste again. And anyone who has never tasted, he also laments, oh I have never tasted. So one who has tasted, and one who has not tasted, both are lamenting. Wife is like that. You have already tasted, now you are lamenting.
But my advice to you is not to try to taste again, otherwise your lamentation will increase. You have got no children, so you are free, so take sannyasa.
Sex life is nasty, but out of illusion we think it is nice.
Now you are experienced, so don’t take sex life again. You should not take sannyasa out of sentiment nor artificially, but it is better to accept it anyway.
I hope this meets you in good health.
Your ever well wisher,
A. C. Bhaktivedanta Swami
ACBS.bs
About the Author
HDG A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada Founded the Hare Krishna Movement in 1966 in New York. In only 11 years he spread the movement all over the world. He wrote more than 80 books including Bhagavad-gita As It Is, Srimad-Bhagavatam, Sri Caitanya-caritamrta, Sri Isopanisad. Prabhupada's books constitute a complete library of Vedic philosophy, religion, literature and culture.
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My name is Sourabh i have just finished my studies now doing job from 3 months, now suddenly my parents wants me to get married, but i am very confused as from childhood i live with a dream of devote my life in worship of god and my parents as they are god for me, but how can i get someone else in life , that will distract my attention from god i will do things like other household grahast person as looking only for my personal benefit, money etc , and all these things will take away me from my goal of achieving god, i also can’t say no to my parents because as a son i have to obey my duties , i am very confused regarding now what to do.
Please guide me .
Jai shree Krishna, hari bol
Hare Krishna Sourabh
Yes. Of course parents want their son to get married. And normally this is a good thing also. It is not that you have to forget God after you get married. Rather you can use your household life in the service of Krishna. Particularly if you marry some girl who is also interested in spiritual life. Many of the great devotees in the history have been householders. And for most people they go through the grhastha stage and later on some take sannyasa.
Of course for a man marriage is not compulsory. He can stay in the gurukul, at the place of the spiritual master. But these days you can not find a proper spiritual master or a proper gurukul. So it is a difficult time.
Main thing is you do not seem very clear. I suggest you make a study of Srila Prabhupada’s books. Without studying the science of God you can not focus your attention on God. And you need to start chanting the Hare Krishna mantra at least 16 rounds a day:
Hare Krishna Hare Krishna Krishna Krishna Hare Hare
Hare Rama Hare Rama Rama Rama Hare Hare.
And we have to follow the four regulative principles: [no illicit sex, no meat eating, no gambling and no intoxication].
So do these things: read Prabhupada’s books, chant Hare Krishna and follow the regulative principles and as you do these things Krishna will give you intelligence and you will be then able to understand what is the correct thing for your to do in your life.
Chant Hare Krishna and be happy!
Madhudvisa dasa
so if a girl husband take sannyasa,how will see be able to servr her husband please explain this to me i dont understand
Hare Krishna Kamla
A women should always be protected by a man. So before taking sannyasa the husband should give his wife at least one son and that son has to be grown up enough so he can look after his mother before the husband takes sannyasa. That is the Vedic system. The women is first protected by her father and then she is handed over to a qualified boy to be his wife and he protects her then in her old age if the husband does take sannyasa then there should be grown up sons to take care of their mother and the family business, etc.
Chant Hare Krishna and be happy!
Madhudvisa dasa
If someone treats us badly, what should we do? Keep quiet or do something about it? I think ppl who do bad to me are often blessed. why so?
Hare Krishna!
We should surrender to Krishna and serve Krishna. He will not treat us badly and if people treat us badly because we are serving Krishna then that is OK. We don’t care how people treat us actually. We only care about pleasing Krishna, serving Krishna.
Chant Hare Krishna and be happy!
Madhudvisa dasa
Should a girl take sanyas? We know the world today. Is it safe for a girl to live alone? I got married but the person i was forced to marry had sexual problems coz of which he used to misbehave with me , my parents and ask for dowry and take away my monthly salary. I got divorce, now my parents want me to marry again, but i wanted to adopt a child and live my life. The money i was supposed to get as settlement out of court is taken away by my parents and they again want me to settle with someone of their choice.I never want to hurt them but whenever I say no to their any decision, they do emotional blackmail and i am scared nothing should happen to them. Coz of this fear and anger i misbehave with them, shout and hold them responsible for my fate, but then again i am blamed by my siblings that I am torturing them. I don’t find a solution out. I always wanted to get married and live a happy life but I’ll be married to such a person, i never had thought. What do you think i can do to come out of this problem? Plz help.
What can you expect?
This is the material world. Krishna calls it in Bhagavad-gita dukalayam-asasvatam, it means a place of misery where there is danger at every step. And we are thinking we can make it into a comfortable place where we can live happily forever… It is insanity. This material world is a crazy place full of suffering and misery. We need to realize that and stop trying to be happy here and instead surrender to Krishna and serve Krishna and live our lives in such a way that we always remember Krishna and never forget Krishna and then at the time of death we will naturally remember Krishna and Krishna promises that “Whoever remembers Me at the time of death will attain Me without fail.”
And as far as a girl taking sannyasa, no a girl can not take sannyasa, a girl should get married and serve her husband nicely.
Chant Hare Krishna and be happy!
Madhudvisa dasa
Hare Krishna prg and mata g…DP
Agtsp
This world is dukhalayam and being illusioned, we think we can live forever happy in this world. But no, it’s never possible as the very purpose of this material world is to make us suffer. Maya thrashes us repeatedly and we are so conditioned, that we start enjoying it. This world is filthy place, just like a toilet. We can’t expect it to smell fragrance. The very nature of toilet is to produce dirty smell. So instead of adjusting and compromising with dirty smell, it’s intelligence to finish the job in it and get out as soon as possible. Don’t miss this opportunity, it’s very very rare. We never know that if we miss this tym, for how many numbers of Brahmas life we will keep rottening here, being tossed up and down by Maya. Don’t get allured to anything in this material world, dnt get caught in any ketab religion except Bhagwat dharma. Srila Prabhupada came to take us back to Godhead. Plz dnt miss this chance else we dnt know till how long we will keep on rottening here. Only Krishna can give us happiness, any other plan to enjoy apart from Krishna will fail again again, births after births.
Plz forgive me, never intend to hurt anyone.
Vancha kalptarubhysa kripasindubya ev cha patitanam pavnebhyo Vaisnevyo namo namh
Hare Krsna
You have spoken correctly Prabhu. This world is a miserable horrible place. Our only business is to become Krishna conscious and make as many others as possible Krishna conscious also and we will all go back home back to Godhead and be happy serving Krishna there…