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Published on September 16th, 2016 | by HDG A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada | Full size image

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Love In the Material World

Regarding love affairs in the material world: they are only shadows or reflections of the real love with Krishna. If you love Krishna in any capacity, you shall never be frustrated because everything in Krishna is perfect, eternal, blissful, and full of knowledge.

Los Angeles 14 January, 1968

My Dear Kancanbala dasi,

Please accept my blessings. I have duly received your letter (undated), and noted the contents very gladly. My sincere blessings are for you for your nice prosecution of Krishna Consciousness. Whatever you are doing at the present moment is approved by me and I think on account of your becoming a sincere soul, Krishna is dictating from within and you are doing things so nicely. There are two gurus–one internal and the other external. The internal Guru is Krishna Himself seated in everyone’s heart, and the external Guru is the Spiritual Master. So a sincere devotee is helped both externally and internally. To the sincere devotee the internal Guru Krishna dictates, but the thing has to be conformed by the external Guru then it is all right. I am very glad that you don’t go out, and keep indoors engaging yourself in Krishna Consciousness activities.

Regarding love affairs in the material world: they are only shadows or reflections of the real love with Krishna. If you love Krishna in any capacity, you shall never be frustrated because everything in Krishna is perfect, eternal, blissful, and full of knowledge. So continue your present activities and chant your beads; whenever there is some difficulty consult Brahmananda or write to me; and Krishna will help you more and more on the path of perfection. Hope you are well.

Your ever well-wisher,

A. C. Bhaktivedanta Swami

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  1. mani says:

    I visit temples with famiy.
    may it b of lord Ganesha, Hanumana, Mata durga or even Gurudwara.
    but everywhere and in every lord all i can see is just Krsna.. Krsna.. Krsna.. Krsna..

    initialy i found it litte confusing..
    but now all is krsna…. krsna….!!!
    🙂 🙂

  2. rimli says:

    True thing about Krishna is that when I was 9 yrs ago I fell in love with Krishna now 4 yrs later I am mad with love only with him he guides me every time and comes in my mother’s dreams n tells that I m his beloved devotee n what I have to correct in my charectar…now I realise I m mad with love my sister calls me insane but no prob… I WANT TO SEE HIM AND I DONOT KNOW IF ITS RIGHT OR WRONG BUT I WANT TO MARRY HIM..ÀM I THINKING RIGHT? REPLY PLSSS..NO RUDE COMMENTS

    • Yes. It is all-right to think like this. Wanting to marry Krishna. That is how the gopis felt and they are recognized as the greatest devotees of Krishna. But there is a danger of taking it sentimentally and considering that Krishna is like an ordinary person in the material world. So you need to read Srila Prabhupada’s books to understand Krishna in more detail.

  3. shivam gupta says:

    am gratefull and thankfull for your reply sir and i am fully satisfied with it …i am going to make spritual process according to your guidelines …i am so much filled with love …thankyou thankyou sir ….for making my life more simple and blissfull….

  4. Shivam gupta says:

    Girls can love Krishna as boyfriend but what about man who want to follow path full of love as lover ….can I love any goddess as beloved or girlfriend or there is nothing….

    • Hare Krishna Shivam

      These are highly elevated topics and can not be conceived in the beginning.

      In the beginning we have to follow the regulative principles [no illicit sex life, no meat eating, no gambling and no intoxication] and chant at least 16 rounds of the Hare Krishna mantra every day and read Srila Prabhupada’s books at least 1-2 hours a day. Otherwise we can have no actual idea of Krishna and no real spiritual life at all.

      There are many different relationships with Krishna and as we advance in Krishna consciousness what our relationship with Krishna is will be revealed in due course of time.

      We are not these material bodies, we are spirit souls. So we are not, as spirit souls, male or female. That is the body. You are in an man’s body this life, you can be in a woman’s body in your next life. So the male and female is the body, not the soul.

      So you can not understand any of these things without first becoming Krishna conscious. Otherwise you are just mistakenly applying your materialistic concepts of so-called love in the material world to Krishna. But it is a totally different thing.

      So first you have to become Krishna consciousness. When you understand Krishna then love for Krishna will naturally develop.

      You have to find a bonafide spiritual master, surrender and serve. That is the process. Surrender and service. You can not jump up artificially and pretend to be loving Krishna without even knowing Krishna. You can only know Krishna by the mercy of a pure devotee of Krishna. So it is a process and if you want to come to the platform of love of Krishna you have to follow the process.

      Chant Hare Krishna and be happy!

      Madhudvisa dasa

      • shivam gupta says:

        i am gratefull and thankfull for your reply sir and i am fully satisfied with it …i am going to make spritual process according to your guidelines …i am so much filled with love …thankyou thankyou sir ….for making my life more simple and blissfull….

  5. Bshah says:

    I always have felt love for Krishna and when I was kid I saw him at times. Jsk

  6. Chetan says:

    Hare Krishna Hare Krishna Krishna Krishna Hare Hare
    Hare Rama Hare Rama Rama Rama Hare Hare

  7. karthik says:

    i love krishna more and more

  8. KrishnaIsMySavior says:

    Hare Krishna,
    Dear Madhudvisa dasa,
    I have a few questions that I would be grateful if answered.

    1 – What is marriage, if there is no love other than love for Krishna?
    2 – It is the responsibility for Parents to bring up their children Krishna conscious, does this mean that inter-racial marriages are forbidden? ( I live in US ).
    3- A man wanting to marry while being Krishna Conscious should look for what type of woman? ( As I live in US ), there are many non-Indian and non-veg woman here. What must the woman be like for marriage? ( Please explain in detail, such as what ideals the woman should have ).
    4- Is dating permissible ( such as boyfriend and girlfriend ) with no sex enjoyment involved? What would be allowed, for instance, hugs, holding hands, kissing?
    Thank you and hare Krishna.

  9. neeraj joshi says:

    Krishna…. My everything!Krishna… who are you to meYou are everything to meI was wondering why am IImmersed in the ocean of miseriesI am now able to realizeThat you are making meUnderstand only you areMy eternal loveWhoever leavesYou will be thereYou only will be there with meIn all my life and beyondWhen I am sad,You soothe my heart by playingEnchanting melodies on your fluteMake me sleep in your lap caressing my hairAnd singing sweet lullabiesWhen I am forlornYou give me company, talking to meAnd with the magic touch of loveYou make me flyIn the bright blue stream aboveWhen I am happy you play Dandiya with meIn the enthralling beauty of VrindavanWhen I am lost you take my handsAnd run to the banks of Yamuna, dazzling in the moonlightTo teach me, life is to enjoy not to stay in anguishKrishna my beloved… I realize you carry meIn your arms with all the sacred loveThe love without demands and conditionsThe love without inhibitions and obsessionsYou are the love… love beyond words.

  10. nishi says:

    i want my krishna in my heart till my death. please pray my lord to remain within me and i realise and obey him forever

  11. Andrew says:

    Hare Krsna Madhudvisa dasa. I have a sister who is three years younger than me. I once in a while touch her in a loving way on her head. And i think i should not agitate her be touching and all if she does not want. But i feel and felt so bad today. I was just going near her and she coursed me real bad. And plus in general i don’t feel any love from her. And this angers me a lot. She is not loving to me in any way. She treats me like garbage. I just feel like touching and she says that. And plus she does not talk to me. I feel so bad.

    What can i do? Is there no love from anyone including my sister in this world.

    • Hare Krishna Andrew

      You are seeing the material world as it is. Everyone comes here to the material world for his own personal benefit. Everyone is interested in their own pleasure only. Sometimes this selfish desire for pleasure is extended to family for example because a man is thinking if his family members are happy then he will also be happy. But the real point of this extended selfishness and concern for the happiness of the family is really not born out of a desire to see the family members happy. He wants to see the family members happy because he thinks if the family is happy he will be happy.

      Everyone is trying to place themselves in the center of the world. So actually this selfish mentality of practically everyone here in the material world has created a hellish situation. No one really loves anyone else or cares about anyone else. The only time they act lovingly towards others there is some selfish motive involved. The ‘love’ is ultimately born out of a desire for personal sense gratification, not out of any real feeling for the other person at all.

      This is the way of the material world. There is no actual love in the material world, only lust.

      So it is very fortunate that you have come to see this. Now you need to simply concentrate on reestablishing your original eternal loving relationship with Krishna by chanting Hare Krishna and reading Srila Prabhupada’s books. This is real love. Between us and Krishna. That is the only relationship that we can have that the word love can be factually used to describe.

      Chant Hare Krishna and be happy!

      Madhudvisa dasa

      • Andrew says:

        Hare Krsna Madhudvisa dasa prabhuji. Yest true. But at times i see people helping me out just out of goodness and kindness or really feels like it. And my parents want me to be successful in life by being able to support myself. And they say they don’t want anything else but they say if i am then they will only feel good. So is this pleasure also a type of selfishness. Doing good to me just to feel good that what they did worked on me.

        “So it is very fortunate that you have come to see this. Now you need to simply concentrate on reestablishing your original eternal loving relationship with Krishna by chanting Hare Krishna and reading Srila Prabhupada’s books. This is real love. Between us and Krishna. That is the only relationship that we can have that the word love can be factually used to describe.”

        Prabhuji about this you are right. But it is still very frustrating. And there is one thing i want to share in regards to doing devotional service. They are times when i need help of any sort in terms of devotional service either directly for devotional service or indirectly for things that support devotional service. But i don’t get it from people around me most of the times. And i feel so frustrated and angry. What to do? What is the solution to the problem of getting help for devotional service.

        • We don’t need any help for performing devotional service from anyone.

          Krishna consciousness is so nice that there are no material impediments to practicing Krishna consciousness. So you do not need any help from anyone, except from Srila Prabhupada and Krishna of course, for practicing devotional service. If you think you need help then you are not yet Krishna consciousness. There are no material impediments, no matter what is our material condition we can continue with our Krishna consciousness undisturbed.

          Chant Hare Krishna and be happy!

          Madhudvisa dasa

          • Ravi says:

            Hare Krishna Prabhu
            Ji
            Al glories to Srila Prabhupada Ji

            Prabhu Ji , If you don’t mind , can I read this page’s articles and mail archive and news archive ?
            click here to see this page of krishna.org : http://krishna.org/sudarsana/

            and one more question Prabhu Ji , can I save [by web to pdf feature of my browser] any desired page [ such as Love In The Material World ] to my cell phone from your krishna.org website for Personal reading ??
            Hare Krishna

          • Hare Krishna Ravi

            Yes. You can read it. Why not? That is what it is there for. And you can save it, copy it, repost it, whatever you want.

            It is very old, the first Krishna.org website from about 1995.

            Chant Hare Krishna and be happy!

            Madhudvisa dasa

  12. vesheshna raj says:

    iam a newly wedded woman and have just started my marriage life. i need a guideline to a happy marriage s iam a devotee of Lord Sri Krishna while my husband is no very spiritual. can a wife help her husband achieve that spiritual level?

    • Yes. A wife can help her husband advance in spiritual life by being a very good devotee of Krishna herself. You can cook everything for Srila Prabhupada and Krishna and offer the bhoga to Krishna and feed your husband Krishna prasadam. He will like it very much because it is prasadam and also by honoring the prasadam he will make spiritual advancement.

      The thing is we have to become devotees of Krishna ourselves and then Krishna who is in our hearts will guide us what to do.

      So chant Hare Krishna and be happy!!

  13. sahil says:

    hare krishna…. i luv a girl lot,,,, bt she cheated me n left me… its been 3 years now… i tried to forget her but all in vain… i still luv her a lot n waiting for her…. iam rite or wrong ?

    • You are a fool. There is no love in the material world. Only lust. Love only has any meaning in connection with Krishna.

      Of course while we are in maya, in forgetfulness of our loving relationship with Krishna we become bewildered by the so-called love of the material world and distracted by that. But it is not real love, it is only a reflection of the original love that exists in the spiritual world between Krishna and His devotees. So love is real, it is there in the spiritual world in relationship with Krishna, but what we see here in the material world is only an perverted reflection, a shadow, of that real love. So you can understand this if you think of a mango tree reflected in a lake. In the reflection you can see the tree and the mangos. It looks like there are mangos in the reflection on the water. But really there are no mango in the reflection, they are in the tree. So if foolishly you accept the reflection as reaSlity and try to taste the mangoes reflected in the lake all your attempts will be futile. You will not be able to ever taste the mangoes in this way. You will just get wet…

      Similarly we can never experience love in the material world. We see the reflection of love, we have the idea of love, basically we know what love is, but like you are experiencing, we can never actually experience that love in the material world. So the solution is to reestablish our eternal loving relationship with Krishna by chanting:

      Hare Krishna Hare Krishna Krishna Krishna Hare Hare
      Hare Rama Hare Rama Rama Rama Hare Hare

      Then you will be able to experience real love and you will be able to forget this girl as she has already long ago forgotten you…

      Chant Hare Krishna and be happy!

      Madhudvisa dasa

  14. Visudha devi dasi says:

    Hare Krsna,
    it’s so wonderful for me to go through each and every comments here…i personally feel so happy to hear that everyone here is in a deep relation and has true love for Sri Krsna…i don’t say that i wasn’t attracted to anyone..i do,but i knew that it’s all because of Sri Krsna’s energy.So,i don’t get into material relationship…i love everyone around me,animals and plants…i personally feel that material love is not good,where it can cause someone to forget his/her duty to think of Sri Krsna all the time,forgets the time for devotional practice and it also pains your parent’s…whenever the taught of love comes into my mind,i go stand right before Sri Krsna and say”OH KANHA,do u think i would leave you and go???well,i don’t feel anyone here is so much attractive than you…so,please take my heart which beats for you only..by this,i feel really great….i know im very young to indulge in material love…im just 21 years old girl,studing in a institute and i do receive lots of love proposes from my place…but i can’t do anything for that…because i Love Krsna to the core of my heart…and i believe that He knows what is good for me and when to give me the best….i sincerely wish that Sri Krsna showers His love upon all the souls here…and please bless me that my love towards Sri Krsna increase more and more……and has no end for it….im happy to share my thoughts here..
    DANDAVAT PRANAM,
    JAI JAGANNATH!

    • Qwerty says:

      I loved this comment!! So beautiful! Hare Krishna! 🙂

  15. Mahadeva says:

    Govinda Hare Hare. Krsna please save me from the hurt, pains and sufferings.

  16. kavya says:

    Dear Krishna,
    Dear Keshav,
    Dear Madhav,

    As a child i had a special idol of u which was of clay and was very close to me i still have a very clear image of that idol it got broken u know the whole story behind it how did it break but today everything is good coz of u I would love to have it wid me again . Laddu gopal u are only light for me i leave my pains and suffering all on u n i m sure u shall alwz be there .. Love u Laddu Gopal….ur devotee

    • Hare Krishna!

      If you want to worship Laddu Gopal you can get another murti. Krishna will enter the murti and respond to your sincere service…

      Chant Hare Krishna and be happy!

      Madhudvisa dasa

  17. pranav says:

    I don’t understand my attraction to the personality of krishna..it’s really something different ( i love him a lot…)

  18. vesheshna says:

    i am confused.i am 23yrs of age.iam well groomed and have moral values and traditional/cultural sense.
    yet at times i flet lonely.
    as i was never friends with the males ..it sort of became hard.
    so i started puuring out my love for everything to krsna and now i can say that iam in love with krishna..
    he is the only maha-purusha who is my love, my life, my soul.
    i bow down to my loving krishna.
    now when ever i hang out with the boys i think of krishna and temptations goes out of the window.
    no more temptation.
    just pure love for krishna.
    this material world is a miserable place.
    so much pain, fake people, faces, anger, violence, hatred, destruction, pollution, crime, slaughterhouses, illicit sexual activities, and betrayal on every step.
    so krishna, i pray that waht ever i decide in life, the choices i make, will only be to please you, my dear krishan and no one else.
    hari bolo…………radhe radhe…..
    jai kanhaa…………..

    • Qwerty says:

      Thank you for this comment! This actually made me so happy because it’s so relatable and I’m going to learn from this! Hare Krishna! 🙂

  19. mukesh says:

    Krishna a friend who has answer to every question in ur mind and a solution to every problem in our lyff.

  20. gayathri says:

    i love krishna as my friend as everything i can see him in my heart i can feel his presence…..he dictates me….and shows me the right path…..may krishna bless everyone

  21. Krishnapriya says:

    I love krishna so much….he’s my world…i have no words to describe how i feel for him…i ask for only one thing…please kanha be mine and take me as your servant and free me from this world….jai shri krishna 2 all krishna bhakts…

  22. Lost Soul says:

    Dear devotees of Krishna,

    I have come to a point in my life where I do not know where to turn to.
    I am 19 now and have been in relationship with a young man for the past year. He is a devotee of Krishna but now says that he no longer feels close to Krishna any more. I have understanding of why he feels this way- we are trapped in material lust. My boyfriend is the one who opened my eyes to krishna conciousness, but now that our relationship is coming to an end I feel hurt, upset and lost.

    Inside, I know I want to love Krishna and experience this happiness that devotees of Krishna experience. I want to be Krishna conscious but I am having trouble. I am non veg trying to give up meat, I stopped drinking and I do not smoke. Where do I start? can anyone please help me find my way in life so that I can take shelter of God.

    Thank you Hare Krishna!

    • Krsnapyari says:

      My dear Lost Soul,

      The answer to all your worries is in surrender to Krishna. What Krishna is doing let him do. Always be his sincere servant. Being devoted to the Lord is no game. He examines everyone before extending His special mercy to them.

      You can increase your boyfriend’s love for Krishna by talking to him about Krishna….about how beautifully he saved millions by holding Govardhan on his little finger( not even by using entire hand…thats how stylish he is!). Ask him to surrender to Krishna and tell him that Krishna will help him always.

      Non-vegetarian food is a dead-body wrapped in spices. If you keep that in mind, you wont be able to consume it anymore. And to begin with, first try to read about Krishna’s life – how He was born, circumstances, His pastimes and mischeif atleast till he kills Kamsa. You can even find videos on the same. Try to know his earthly pastimes first. This will give u foundation and help you surrender to him, fix faith in him. Beware, He will examine ur faith multiple times…but never give up ur love for Him.

      Then read about Prabhupad’s 4 regulative principles and try following them…they lead to Bhakti.Purchase a Photo of Krishna and Radharani and worship them. Chant His name attentively on neem mala to start with ( Hare Krsna Hare Krsna Krsna Krsna Hare Hare)…atleast once a day. Worship can be simple offering of flower to him with a candle or a lamp and tulasi and see in Him ur best friend. :)Cook vegetarian food without onion,garlic and mushrooms and offer to lord by keeping tulasi on it…you can read on this issue later. Everything is his wish…even that Im writing to you and whatever u do afterwards. Hope u progress as His devotee.

  23. Pragna says:

    Saware Kanhaiya mera pyaar banke aaja….i love krishna and his love is immortal, all these mother, father, sister, brother, etc. relationships are only for some time, for who is born has to die, but love with krishna is immortal, this world is full of greed, hate, and every relationship built has at least some greed…i will never break my relationship with krishna becauz hes my only true friend and love…i talk to him and one day i m sure he ll talk back…all krishna bhakts keep ur faith in him, one day he will take us to his home and there we will serve him……love u kanha!

  24. AJILA KRISHNARAM says:

    I feel happy 2 see many, loving krishna. But just 2 say in short my love, I want Krishna 2 be born as my son. Only a mother can show true love and affection 2wards her child, more than a lover, father, brother, sister, and anyone else.

    • Rahul Sharma says:

      it’s very good that u want krsna as ur son….. but I just want to be wid krsna in any relationship… I just want to feel krsna…I am waiting, when will my eyes be decorated with tears of love flowing constantly when I chant Your holy name? When will my voice choke up, and when will the hairs of my body stand on end at the recitation of Your name?
      please be mercyful to me n give me shelter of ur feet… so I can attain krsna…

  25. Avinash says:

    I love Krishna.

  26. Ssaawari(divya) says:

    i m jst 17 people say u r too small bt i know tat almighty n i love him he is in my every second n every activity.the feeling i have on seeing him,listening his bhajans give me eternal peace n i feel jst awesome, i know he wil come one day to take me away wid him away from this false matrix world, for me he is my kannu, i never pray to him bt he is there in my every heartbeat. LOVE U KANNUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU.
    Ur SSAAWARI miss u MY SSAAWARIYA

    • Denish says:

      I am realy surprised to know you… I am proud of you dont have words to say anything I can just feel you love with Krishna……….

      • ssaawari says:

        thanks! dear
        bt i m in a big doubt now cud u help me out.
        I’ll tell u a story
        whn i was 12 i fell in “atrraction” with a boy. I never talked him since i passed my twelth. He was my classmate. Suddenly he realized my atrraction for him. Though i love krishna but i m attracted towards him, even till this day. {I m sorry kannu, bt dont know y he atrracts me a lot}
        One day he asked me n i accepted it as love. I m in addiction of this guy now. I cant stop talking him unitl he breaks contact wid me, its like he can go away frm me i cant n he doesnt allow me.
        He doesnt love me, i know bt i m still atrracted n he pulls me towards this matrialistic world. Help me out

  27. anju says:

    i fell in love with a man in whom i have seen and felt krishna. I lost everything 2 this man and i have nothing left in me except my infinite and boundless love fr him. He is my krishna and krishna is him. And krishna lives in my heart. Krishna krishna krishna is all i can think abt night and day.


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